thanks to oxytocin

Oxytocin has been found to increase our levels of trust and make us feel more connected with people. But what if that oxytocin released during sex makes us feel connected with someone who’s wrong for us? 

Oxytocin seems to have been ‘designed’ by nature to make a man and woman feel bonded after sex, so they would stay together and raise children.Today, the physiology of men and women still plays out according to this pattern. But estrogen seems to increase the calming and bonding effects of oxytocin, while testosterone seems to mute them. That's why women tend to feel more attached after sex than men do.

The oxytocin response is unconscious; it takes place within the autonomic nervous system, so it's hard to change it. But we definitely should be aware of what's going on when we feel this. Say you sleep with a man who's a jerk but a great lover. The next morning, part of you is going, ‘This guy is a prick.’ But another part of you says, ‘Oh, I feel this incredible connection with him.’ Well, that incredible connection is just your oxytocin talking. Remind yourself, he's not really The One—and keep looking until you find someone who's nice out of bed, too,” accordingly to Susan Kuchinskas,who writes a blog about oxytocin and has a book, Love Chemistry: How Oxytocin Lets us Trust, Love and Mate.

if you ever wonder why yr galfren is with a prick, perhaps this will explain it.

source: www.gapingvoid.com

so if love is supposed to be selfless, how come we feel so lousy when we didnt get what we want?

source: www.gapingvoid.com